CC12 Workshop 06 – Erotic Fantasy Reconsidered: From Tragedy to Triumph – Esther Perel, MA, LMFT

Description:

In this workshop, we will look at fantasy as an ingenious way our creative mind overcomes all sorts of relational and intra psychic conflicts around desire and intimacy. Therapists can help clients develop a view of fantasy as a narrative that creates a safe space to experience the pleasure that can invigorate their loving relation-ships.  They will decipher the meaning of sexual fantasies, approaching them more as dreams or complex symbolic structures than as literal narratives of secret intentions. In recognizing the depth, complexity and healing qualities of the erotic imagination, we explore sexual fantasy as a staging ground for action and escape that turns the tables on those responsible for earlier experiences of demoralization, defeat, and even trauma. As therapists, we need a clearer distinction between issues of privacy and secrecy in the arena of sexuality, as well as a range of clinically valuable ideas about when and how to bring fantasy into a relationship and — just as importantly — when and how not to.

Educational Objectives:

1. Discuss how to decipher sexual fantasies: their symbolic meaning, performative qualities, and their healing attributes.
2. Show the relation between attachment history, erotic blueprints, and sexual fantasies.
3. Demonstrate “when and how” to help couples bring their erotic imaginings into their relationship.

*Sessions may be edited for content and to preserve confidentiality*